I had lunch today with some other moms that have adopted children from the Ukraine. It is so comforting to hear that they are going through similar troubles. I think we all have our days when we would really rather not have our beloved children around...
I try so hard to have patience. But when you have a daughter and niece who both need to practice their multiplication tables why in the world would you not want to have them practice them with each other instead of spending fifteen minutes separately with each! Or if she needs to read for twenty minutes a night and her other homework requires her to read a page on the solar sound, why would you not want to combine the two together? Katya can be so difficult and sometimes she just really pushes my buttons! If she only knew how much energy and headache we could save if she would just cooperate. It seems that we spend half of our lives watching her pout and stomp around the house. Usually it is slightly amusing and doesn't bother me. Somedays, though, it just makes me want to close my eyes and pretend that I am back in my pre-mother days :)
The top of my "urk" list is the whole eating thing. I do the thirty-meals-in-a-day thing, where I spend one day a month cooking meals and freeze them so that we actually have food to eat. Last month, Katya helped me cook and I thought if she saw that individually she likes all the ingredients going into the food that she would be more likely to eat. NOT! Even though Alex and I have made the policy that if you don't like what we are eating for dinner you can skip it and wait until breakfast, it still infuriates me that she will take one look at something (doesn't even take a bite of it!) and proclaim that "me no like". I'm sorry but we are not having ketchup (with a side of mashed potatoes), spaghetti, pizza, or McDonalds every night.
The next thing on my "urk" list is bedtime. Bedtime usually starts out with a struggle and ends with a snotty little girl stomping off. I realize that we can't make her fall asleep and that she thinks it isn't fair that she has to go to bed and we don't but we are the parents and between the hours of 9 and 10 we deserve to not have children around (isn't that a god-given right?).
One day I need to make a list of all the things that I love about Katya so that when she makes me so mad I can read it.
Lunch was great! I feel bad for the ladies that can't stick around and really talk. But I think if we all stick around we won't get a word in edge wise.
ReplyDeleteI think you're doing great with Kayta. I so relate to the many things your write about. We're past the food thing however. He's even eating peanut butter as of yesterday. (He's had three in just over 24 hours and asked for a 4th!)
I'm so sorry about the Hannah concert. My daughter loved it but she knew the Miley songs too. I did hear she was sick. That's too bad. I'm sure even nosebleed seats were pricey!
cute pictures! Sorry I missed lunch. We are learning with Tanya's attachment disorder she doesn't like to go to sleep at night because people left her in the night and weren't always home when she got up. There dad and grandpa both died in the night. There might be more to the going to bed at night... We've also let her draw or read for 30 minutes in bed to just stay up a little later, but get comfortable in bed and to calm down from the day. If I go down and she's playing or walking around I have her get in bed and all lights out right then, the second night in a row she loses reading/drawing privileges. It's seemed to help, but it can be a pain some nights to check and then turn out lights a half hour later and remind her we are there all night and not leaving, etc. We did the same as you with the food. Our plus was Ana would try about everything so after a few weeks she can get Tanya to try stuff. She'll eat pizza and hamburgers now, wouldn't go near it the first couple months.
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